3) When Feelings Influence Our Thinking In Relationships

Our emotions can affect the way we reach a certain conclusion. Although arguments that have to do with appealing to emotion may sound bad, the conclusions we make are greatly influenced by them. In my opinion, some cases of appealing to emotion may be a good thing. Of course in some cases, it can be a bad thing. Basically when we let our emotions merge into our thinking, we reach prescriptive conclusions which basically tells us what we should or should not do.

Appealing to emotion can negatively affect our prescriptive conclusion. For example, when a couple disagrees with each other, they may get into a fight. Depending on the couple, appealing to emotion can negatively affect them because they may fight endlessly (letting their anger take over them) which can lead to divorce ("I should break up with my spouse because I am very upset with him").

However, although it sounds ironic, it is good for couples to get into a fight because later on, couples may compromise. This is possible because of appealing to emotion. Even though the couple is fighting, their love for each other can make them realize that their fight is not really going anywhere. If the couple loves each other enough, they can also feel that fighting is pointless and only making their relationship worse. In other words, love can make a couple realize that their relationship is more important than whoever wins the argument ("I should try to compromise with my spouse because I still love him"). This is an example of an appealing to emotion because the couple may find that love (their affections and emotions towards each other) is more important than winning a fight. It also helps them understand each other's different views. In other words, a couple can also learn more about each other. This in return can also create a stronger bond for the couple because they would learn to live with each other even with fighting.

What I am trying to say is that appealing to emotion is not bad in general. They can make bad arguments, but in some cases, it may make positive prescriptive conclusions. In my opinion, it is only bad if you reach conclusions that are bad. Other than that, appealing to emotion can positively affect us. Refer to the example I gave about a couple fighting. I think the appealing to emotion is a huge part of a couple that may be fighting with each other. Couples who let negative emotions take over them may not end so well. In contrast, couples who let positive emotions take over them may result to a better solution. In this case, couples may even develop a stronger loving bond with each other.

- Pink Bean

2) Feeling Pity and Reaching a Conclusion

Appealing to pity is when someone does something because they feel pity for whatever he or she is doing it for. In appealing to pity, you are simply giving into a conclusion because you feel it is right due to the fact that you feel guilty you do not agree with the conclusion. Here is an argument that is using this method in order to convince the audience that it is right to do something.

"My little sister is not allowed to eat candy, and I know she loves candy. Therefore, I will give her candy because I feel sorry for her."

This is a bad argument because I am basically showing appeal to pity for my sister when I shouldn't. In the first place, she probably was banned from eating candy because she wasn't taking care of her teeth. There is no good reason to give her candy in this particular argument because it is not very logical. A better argument would say, "Since it is Halloween, I should give my sister candy so that she can celebrate." This argument may still be bad, but it is stronger than my previous argument of appealing to pity. The previous argument was weaker because I was giving candy in an illogical way. However, giving candy while it is Halloween shows a better reason because children usually celebrate Halloween by trick-or-treating and getting candy. The Halloween argument is more reasonable than me feeling pity for my little sister.

- Pink Bean

1) Is Revenge Good?

Appealing to emotion is an argument that can be made by using emotions. In doing this, making people feel guilt, fear, anger, or any emotion can lead them into believing a conclusion.

One example of this is the appeal of spite. Appeal of spite is an argument made using the idea of revenge. Many people usually use this argument when something bad happens to them from the actions of someone or something else. In return, they will usually use their bad actions as a reason why you should believe in a conclusion.

For example, I own a Yelp account and I wrote a review about a Sanrio store. I love Sanrio, but this certain location is not pleasant. In this review, I gave this certain Sanrio store a very low rating because I was accused of stealing when I wasn't. In addition, their employees are horrible because they always keep a close eye on every shopper as if they are all going to steal something. I understand that the area where this Sanrio is located is pretty ghetto but I see that as no excuse for their actions. For the conclusion of my review, I gave this Sanrio 1 star.

This is an example of appealing of spite. As a Yelp user, I wrote a review about this Sanrio and gave it 1 star because I thought they deserved a low rating. This was appealing to spite because I figured that they deserved a low rating for making me and many others have bad experiences there. My conclusion for my "appealing of spite" argument is that this Sanrio deserves 1 star.

However, is revenge good? It feels good but I personally do not think it is acceptable. I like revenge because it makes me feel better but it is also bitter. I am not against using revenge but I do think it is not necessary to always use revenge. In my case with Sanrio, I find it tolerable because giving them 1 star will not really prevent customers from going there. Over time, I still see people shopping in that certain Sanrio. I am okay with revenge as long as it doesn't cause huge damage. I like revenge but it is bad in general.

- Pink Bean